We had our first official meeting with our foster/adopt case manager this morning. She came to our house and sat down with us to start to get to know us before our incredibly intimate and intimidating homestudy interview that we'll have next month. I really liked her. She was warm and honest with us about both the good and the bad of the process. We gave her a tour of our home. She said we were great and our home seemed very peaceful and welcoming. She answered all our questions and tried to give us an idea of what to expect. All in all, it went great and we were left with a very positive feeling about it all.
The one ironic thing I have to mention is that it turns out our case manager is pregnant. Very pregnant, due in December. Just dawned on me when I typed that that I should have been due in December with pregnancy #4. But the weird thing was that her pregnancy didn't bother me. With all the turmoil over recent pregnancy announcements in my life, this one felt fine. Not a twinge of jealousy. While we were talking, she asked if infertility was an issue for us. Knowing this will be heavily covered in our homestudy, I just gave her the basics: that we've had 4 losses, aren't trying now, not sure about the future. She was so considerate and told us a little of her story. Tried for 12 years for her first baby, various losses and issues through that time. Finally had a baby through IVF 5 years ago and now this current pregnancy was a complete surprise. Doctors had told her she would probably never get/stay pregnant without IVF, but here she is. So it was both hopeful and comforting to know we're not alone and she "gets it". She's one of our people.
Of course this also means she'll be having her baby and going on maternity leave relatively soon after we get licensed, but we'll cross that bridge when we come to it...
All in all, a good day so far. Finally feels like we're getting back on track and moving forward in a positive way again. Feels good to be here again :)
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